When we take it on with a positive attitude, the 50s can be a wonderful time for every woman, especially if we focus on the good that comes with age. The truth is that we are wiser and more experienced, we have achieved many things in life on a personal and professional level, we feel more comfortable and secure with ourselves, and many of us know what we want.
I say many, because it is not always like that. Overly attached to the multiple roles that we have played, we lose our true identity and hide ourselves in the stereotypes of “the mother of” or “the wife of” and we do not know who we really are.
The interesting thing is that this decade when we experience a number of physical and emotional changes, the ability to connect with who we are and with our spirituality increases, opening a world of possibilities. It is time to find our passions, to do what you like and why not, to reinvent ourselves and with adventurous eyes look forward to that second half of life.
We cannot ignore that the environment that surrounds us and the cultural prejudices that we have been taught since childhood, prevent us from seeing clearly the resources we have and we focus on what we lack. Changing that paradigm is not easy. The change must begin within each one of us. Forget those limiting thoughts that make us believe that “we are no longer there” and that what we have left is a half-life. Stop saying: “Now what we have to do is take care of our grandchildren” or “At 50 sex is not so enjoyable” or “I can’t get a job because of my age.”
After all, all these “stories” are not true. They are false beliefs that we can change. Of course, change requires courage and bravery. The good news is that we are at our best moment in history to do it and to be 50 or 60 years old. Every day some millions of women reveal themselves to these social patterns and enter this decade aware of their longevity with the will to live as no other generation did, in absolute force and breaking molds.
With the aim of helping you live this wonderful decade, I share 7 hacks to fully live the second half of life
1. Connect with your adult self (This may be different from the one you know or thought you were.)
Many times due to the maelstrom and urgency of life, the disconnect from our essence is so deep that we can hardly recognize ourselves. So the invitation is to reverse the depth and switch to a deeper inner work, connecting with the person we are now. That may mean seeking help from a coach or therapist to make the journey easier.
2. Listen to your needs and wants.
For years you were dedicated to satisfying and solving the problems of others, now is time for yourself. That does not mean you become a selfish woman, it means that you establish and be clear about your priorities and limits. Become your best friend and find a way to satisfy your needs and wants with patience, love, and compassion. Love yourself as you are and give yourself permission to be authentic.
3. Make your health and well-being your priority.
Think about what you have to do to feel healthy and happy, and do it! Listen to your body, recognize your emotions, be active, watch what you eat, fill yourself with nutrients and do what you like.
In this stage more than in any other, we have to be aware of what we eat, stay away from flours and processed foods that inflame us, add more vegetables to our diet and have a daily exercise routine, as well as rest. This will lengthen our mobility and ward off disease.
4. Accept your present, let go of what no longer belongs to you.
Do not look so much to the past that depresses you, or to the future that stresses you, focus on the present and recognize the resources you have. By doing so, you will realize how much you have and will connect with gratitude and abundance. As long as we are attached to what was and will never be again, we will be unable to see the future with optimism.
5. Get your Ikigai.
“That” that makes you get up every morning with enthusiasm and enthusiasm. Connect with your talents, with what you like and are good at. Have dreams and goals that make you happy. Remember, no project is too small or too big. It can be the project of painting your room, starting to walk or starting a new career.
6. Cultivate your relationships and your spirituality.
Do not lock yourself in your house, accept the invitations and look for moments of encounters with the people you value and add to you. Now more than ever it is important to share with family and friends not only to feed the soul, but also to ward off depression and Alzheimer’s.
7. Stay up-to-date with what is happening in the world and its trends.
That nourishes the mind, keeps us current and allows us to have all kinds of conversations between generations, it also makes us feel we are part of something bigger than ourselves.
Finally, remember that each age has its charm and there is no better than the one we live in. Love yourself, take care of yourself, do what you are passionate about and share with your loved ones.
I assure you that the second half of life can be even better than the first. That is why I wrote a book “LIVE THE GOOD LIFE after 50” to accompany you on this path and to tell you that it is possible to live this stage of life with enthusiasm, vitality and purpose.
If you want to go deeper into the subject and obtain tools to happily live the fifth decade beyond age, you can buy my book on Amazon, follow me on IG as @YleanaKetchum and visit my page www.yleanaketchum.com
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